Written By Crystal Byrd
To the daughters whose parents have championed Donald Trump:
Please hear me when I say that no matter what you may hear around the dinner table or see your parents post on Facebook, your body belongs to you. No person has the right – or any business – to touch your body unless you are a willing participant in the touching. If by some cruel twist of fate, you find yourself in shock and disbelief because someone has violated your body without your consent, please don’t be afraid. It doesn’t matter how rich, powerful, connected, or frightening your attacker is; you can be protected. Please don’t be afraid that nobody will believe you just because there were no witnesses. You muster up every tiny reserve of courage you have, you steel yourself for the examination that will follow and you tell the police. Even if it seems tiny, even if you think it might not bother some other girls, if whatever happened sits in your soul and makes your heart heavy or ashamed, you report it to the police. Your body belongs to you. You deserve justice when your body is violated without your permission and your assailant should answer for their crimes. Above all this sweet child, don’t let the world make you lose your faith in love or your hope that somewhere out there is a genuinely good partner who will value you and treat you with respect and dignity.
Which brings me to the sons:
You know right from wrong. You know that power and fame doesn’t buy you the rights to another human’s body. It may not always seem like it, but there are still plenty of men out there who are strong, brave, and kind. One of the greatest markers of a man worth looking up to, is that he knows when to speak and act with tenderness and when to let the beast within rage. You are not consumed by that beast, and you have the capacity to show the world the most noble characteristics of masculinity. Men everywhere are highly successful husbands, fathers, workers, and businessmen who have never used their physical strength or perceived power to intimidate or take advantage of someone simply because they could. Locker room talk is a thing, and it’s okay to be vulgar with your friends, but it’s your actions that count. Be better men than your fathers, be better men than any male role model you may have, and be better men than the men you see on television. To see our children become better people than we are is the heart’s desire of parents across America who are doing everything we can to foster a deep respect for others in the very fabric of our children’s souls.